Wednesday, March 21, 2007

The drama starts the moment first semester begins. Why is it that as soon as University starts procrastination season kicks in, I don’t know if it’s the thrill of producing something out of nothing in the dying minutes, or just a psychological problem but procrastination SUX!
I got three essays to write in a months, and yet I seem to be not worried one bit. I know I will get it done in the end, thus, nothing I try seems to work. A friend has suggested that I play psychological mind games” with my mind but I doubt that it will work but hey it’s worth the try.

Rumor, why is it that something that starts out of an untruthful talk turns a whole community against each? I honestly think that gossipers don’t think about the consequences and effects that the things they are saying will have on people. Although backbiting and gossip is haram, Muslims have through time forgotten that Allah has made gossip haram for us and with good reason.

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said:"Do you know what backbiting is?" They said, "God and His Messenger know best." He then said, "It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike." Someone asked him, "But what if what I say is true?" The Messenger of God said, "If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him." (Muslim).

I honestly hope that people will soon realize the effects that gossip and backbiting has on individuals and the community as a whole, it’s a very dangerous weapon that can tear so many people apart. That is already happening where I live, people are so divided and torn apart and its al because of a few people that started some rumors. I really don’t know what the person who started all of this was trying to achieve but they have created an endless fire which only Allah can extinguish.

Till next time ma’salam.

4 comments:

Om said...

Salaam!

It is good to have you back, Sis, after a long hiatus.

I think we are an identical twins..lol. But really, I'm exactly like that: I keep putting off assignments until the night before its due. In fact, I'm working on a assignment that was given to me two weeks ago, but I just started since it's due tomorrow. For some reason, I actually get a "high" from the pressure - this is really the only thing I miss about school during summers. And I think I perform better under pressure:)

On gossiping, this is really one thing I can say that I'm proud of not practicing. I never allow the backbiting of someone else in my conversation w/ anyone. Even if the gossip is a good thing about that particular person because I'm always aware that a gossip will surely lead to someone awful. And I hope your community will recover from this event, and your right, only Allah will bring harmony to this situation.

Oh speaking of that, it's Maghrib here, so until next time, Salaam:)

Amirah said...

wasalam bro.
lol i always wanted an identical twin, but i always imaged it to be a girl, but hey you'll be just fine. I agree with you i think its the performing well under pressure that keeps us away from doing it on time.

I don’t mind writing the essay at the last minute, but i hate the fact that all the books i need for my essay question are all taken, so i have planned to talk to people in my class find out what essay question they are doing and then ask them for the books when they are done with them. So far i have these two guys and they are happy to share their books with me :-) i feel kinda bad though.

As for my community and the gossip its not going to recover any time soon, it is pretty bad but may Allah help us.

hope your essay went well.

Anonymous said...

What is the gossip in general terms? I just never heard of a gossip that can affect a whole community...I know some that affects families and friends but not whole communties. If you could explain without being specific and mentning private stuff :)

Amirah said...

Salam.

Gossiping and back biting have affected our community, because there are a few individuals that going around saying so and so said this about you, that group hates us so we must break away from them. When it starts people think its nothing, but it gets bigger and bigger and it can separate not only friends, families but also communities.
Everyone is slowly starting to stick to their own "group" and that is not a good thing for us and its not a good thing in our deen.

No wonder why Allah (swt) and prophet Muhammad (Saw) forbid us such an act.